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What Can Be Learned From Sadness?

A note about dealing with sadness from Rev. Doug Meyer:

“Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward.” ~ C. S. Lewis 

For the better part of my life I viewed sadness as an emotion to be avoided at all costs!

I could see no value in being sad. All the experiences I had that elicited a sad response were "no good , very bad, don’t ever want to have that happen again" types of events.

I carried that attitude in to my life for a very long time. My mindset was, “If I just ignore it long enough it will go away, or if I just eat or drink something that makes me feel better the sad will disappear, right?!"

About 5 years ago I found myself at a major life crossroads. In a matter of three months, two huge events happened in my life. The ministry position I had served in for 12 years was cut from the budget, and my marriage of 32 years came to an end.

Fortunately I kicked in to survival gear and took the advice I had been giving out to church members for years.

I sought help!

I embarked on a spiritual journey with the purpose of reassessing my faith life from top to bottom which included weekly meetings with a counselor, medical advice from my Physician and participation in weekly support group meetings with a group of men.

During that life inventory I learned many things about myself and how I worked through my emotions…all of my emotions from sadness to anger to joy!  I learned:

  • Sadness is a very appropriate response to a loss in my life.
  • Sadness is part of me, naturally and wonderfully made by God, but is not me.
  • Sadness has a life span that can be identified and at times shortened when I talk about it, journal about it and or pray about it.
  • Knowing my sources of sadness and traveling with them allows me to do the same with others on this journey.
Sadness is still not an emotion I readily embrace but it does not scare me like it once did.

If you find yourself feeling sad this holiday season I would encourage you to be proactive about facing it.  Remember God is with you – no matter how dark, you have the ability to face this, and reaching out to others will ease the pain!

Here are just three of the many resources for you at Trietsch:

  • Stephen Ministers: email Camille Reeder at or call her at 972-539-8547 ext. 267 to be connected to a Stephen Minister.
  • Prayers & Cares: email Jeanette Tumino at or call her at 972-539-8547 ext. 208 to be added to the prayer list. You sign up for the prayer list online at
  • Pastoral Care: If you would like to schedule an appointment with a pastor, hospital visits or need any other kind of help, contact Rev. Clay Horton by email at or by phone at 972-539-8547. After hours, please call 972-539-8547, ext. 398, and follow the prompts for pastoral care, 24-hours a day.
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