A note about dealing with sadness from Rev. Doug Meyer:
“Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing
monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward.” ~ C.
For the better part of my life I viewed sadness as an
emotion to be avoided at all costs!
I could see no value in being sad. All the experiences I had that elicited a sad response were "no good , very bad, don’t ever want to have
that happen again" types of events.
I carried that attitude in to my life for a very long
time. My mindset was, “If I just
ignore it long enough it will go away, or if I just eat or drink something
that makes me feel better the sad will disappear, right?!"
About 5 years ago I found myself at a major life crossroads. In a matter of three months, two huge events happened in my life. The ministry
position I had served in for 12 years was cut from the budget, and my marriage
of 32 years came to an end.
Fortunately I kicked in to survival gear and took the advice I had been
giving out to church members for years.
I embarked on a spiritual journey with the purpose of
reassessing my faith life from top to bottom which included weekly meetings
with a counselor, medical advice from my Physician and participation in weekly
support group meetings with a group of men.
During that life inventory I learned many things about
myself and how I worked through my emotions…all of my emotions from sadness to
anger to joy! I learned:
Sadness is still not an emotion I readily embrace but it
does not scare me like it once did.
is a very appropriate response to a loss in my life.
is part of me, naturally and wonderfully made by God, but is not me.
has a life span that can be identified and at times shortened when I talk about
it, journal about it and or pray about it.
my sources of sadness and traveling with them allows me to do the same with
others on this journey.
If you find yourself feeling sad this holiday season I would
encourage you to be proactive about facing it. Remember God is with you – no matter how dark, you have the
ability to face this, and reaching out to others will ease the pain!
Here are just three of the many resources for you at Trietsch:
- Stephen Ministers: email Camille Reeder at email@example.com or call her at 972-539-8547 ext. 267 to be connected to a Stephen Minister.
- Prayers & Cares: email Jeanette Tumino at firstname.lastname@example.org or call her at 972-539-8547 ext. 208 to be added to the prayer list. You sign up for the prayer list online at tmumc.org/prayers.
- Pastoral Care: If you would like to schedule an appointment with a pastor, hospital visits or need any other kind of help, contact Rev. Clay Horton by email at email@example.com or by phone at 972-539-8547. After hours, please call 972-539-8547, ext. 398, and follow the prompts for pastoral care, 24-hours a day.