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New phone. Who's this?

For Randee Paraskevopoulos, it was a technology glitch that made her realize she needs to work harder at relationships:

I got a new phone back in November. It's the new Windows 10 phone. Great camera, simple interface and Cortana is great about reminding me of stuff. I love it.

About the same time, I decided to clean up my contact lists on my computer, which then would sync with my new phone. I had duplicates in my personal account, my work account, an old account, my Facebook, etc. So I cut whole groups of people from one account and pasted them into another. If that person was already there, it just combined the details.

At least that's what was supposed to happen.

I somehow managed to permanently delete a bunch of contacts, too. I discovered this when my sister texted me her flight information to come visit for Thanksgiving. It came up on my phone as an unknown number.

See, I didn't delete the contacts of acquaintances or restaurants I call sometimes for take-out. No. I lost my family and best friends.

I got my sister all updated, and added my favorite aunt and cousins when they visited for the holiday, too. But how do you go about adding back contacts when you don't know who you deleted in the first place?

Last week, I got a group text, and none of the phone numbers showed up in my phone. Attached was a link to a video showing my best friend's daughter playing soccer. The four people included on the text were the women I consider some of my very best friends. We've been together since our freshman year at Berry College, when we all were placed in rooms on Third Clara. They stood up with me at my wedding, and I stood beside them at theirs. We've gathered from all over for baby showers, and we support each other's causes financially.

Did I mention I lost my contacts in NOVEMBER? Five months ago?

For five months, I didn't have their numbers in my phone, and I didn't realize it. I'm a bad friend. Do I even KNOW these women anymore? I don't know much about their jobs, or how their husbands are or what their kids are into these days (aside from what they post on Facebook). I obviously haven't spoken to them since at least last November.

If these are relationships I value, I need to work on knowing them better. They are, so there's work to do.

The deeper the relationship, the closer you are, the more you know about each other. I know my husband and my daughters very well -- what they do every day, their favorite desserts, what I need to do when they're upset. And no gift means as much as one that shows how much they know me. Perfume? Makes me nauseous. But anything with caramel in it or Thor on it… perfect.

Knowing God and letting God know you is the basis of building that relationship, too.

In my Bible study so far this year, I've noticed the word "KNOW" a lot in the readings. (I'm in the Life Journey for Women study, in which we read through the entire Bible in a year. BTW, I highly recommend it.)

God "remembered" Noah (and he was spared), and God "knew" about the sufferings of his people in Egypt. The Bible doesn't just talk about God knowing people, but also about the people knowing the Lord. Many times from the creation through Moses, God says that through what happens, "You will know that I am your God."

P.S. If you have my cell number and haven't heard from me in a while, there's a decent chance I've lost your number and don't know it. Please send me a text with your name so I can add it back to my contacts.

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